All throughout life, I remember being told to be someone that I’m not. It was rarely ever said by family, but it was typically said by people who had no clue who or what I was. More often than not, it was a teacher who thought they knew what was best for every student, which is impossible, or it was someone who seems to be bitter about the life that they had chosen to live. For the most part, when I was younger, I would believe the lies that were being fed to me. I mean, in all honestly, who didn’t? When all you know is what others tell you, it is all you can believe, until you reach the point where you know how to think for yourself.
I’ve been told, as I’m sure you and most people you know, to become an engineer, doctor, or any other job that society holds high due to the fact they are typically well paid. But there comes a point where I realized that I had no interest in becoming any of those things. I don’t want to be an engineer that solves someone else’s problems. I don’t want to be a doctor and deal with disease and illness. I should be an accountant? Hell no. Pharmacist? No thanks… Not to say that anything is necessarily wrong with any of these things, but it’s not for me. It’s not what I want by any means.
Don’t get me wrong, I love helping people and solving problems, but I want to help people in my own way. I want to solve problems that I find interesting and important, not what someone tells me to solve. It’s not who I am. I’d rather be they person telling the engineer to solve a problem and pay him the high salary that is expected by society.
But all of this brings me to my main point, which is that we are never told and shown that thinking for yourself and doing what you love can pay off 1,000x more than a nice paycheck, and if you want to make it really insane, I could tell you that a paycheck isn’t going to make a difference if you’re miserable in your position. I would rather make $50,000/year and love what I do, have free time, and be with people I love, in lieu of making $100,000/year with no time, a failing relationship with family, and not having the opportunity to enjoy what I’ve done for myself and the people around me.
Another disclaimer, I’m not saying I want to settle for less than anything that I can possibly achieve. I will be in the financial positive I work towards, and I will have my dream Lamborghini Gallardo LP560-4 by the time I’m 22, but I also want to achieve it by doing what I love and following my dreams. More often than not, the founder or an executive of the company is driving the supercar, not the employee. Society tell you to become the employee for a few reasons, which consist of: 1) Society needs low, medium, and high level employees to function in a smooth way, and 2) Nobody wants to see you be that much more successful than them, and they see it as impossible.
Your family can say they want you to succeed and do this and that, but sometimes, they don’t actually mean it. Let’s say your older brother works 60 hours/week in a job that he isn’t too happy with, but it “pays the bills.” First off, when someone works for the sole purpose of paying bills, they’re going to be miserable. Understand that, and you’ll be able to avoid those people as much as possible. Unless they’re looking for change, they’re only going to bring you down. Secondly, they’re going to be extremely jealous if you’re loving what you do, making money, and have time to enjoy yourself. We experience jealousy from time the we truly have a enough sense to know what we have. As humans, we typically want more, which is great. It leads to innovation, invention, progress, etc. That is, when the person channels that strive in a positive way.
Unfortunately, most people channel that energy in a negative way, which is where we get jealousy from. Instead of working for something better, the person just assumes that they won’t be able to get it. Snarky comments about you will be made, and people will make you sound like a fool – all for the reason of feeling bad about what they have. For some strange reason, people cannot be happy with what they have already. I love striving for more, but I also realize that I am more than happy with the current position I am in. I want more, and I will have more bigger and better things, but I also love what I have now – family, friends, a wonderful girlfriend, and enough income to enjoy them all. But I also have a job that I love, and it’s a job that is always expanding and changing. I could not deal with a monotonous job or career. It would drive me insane. I need change to keep going, and that’s what running a company with Nic and trading Forex does for me. It allows an ever-changing life. And yes, some months are better than others, but there are no months that are exactly the same. I love that.
It’s no coincidence that people become unhappy doing something they don’t love or even wanted to do, every day of their life. When you’re thinking about what you might want to do with your life, keep that in mind. If you don’t love it, if you don’t have a passion or burning desire for it, take some time to think and reconsider. Also, remember that it is never too late to pursue a dream that you once had, even if you have a family that you need to support. It’s been done before is much worse conditions, and there are ample opportunities in this world. You truly have no excuse. Make it happen.